“Your
body is a wrapped lollipop. When you have sex with a man, he unwraps your
lollipop and sucks on it. It may feel great at the time, but, unfortunately,
when he’s done with you, all you have left for your next partner is a poorly
wrapped, saliva-fouled sucker.” –Darren Washington, abstinence educator at the
Eighth Annual Abstinence Clearinghouse Conference
The quote
above is disturbingly telling. America is obsessed with virginity, and
that obsession is harming both women and men in insidious ways. In “The
Purity Myth: How America’s Obsession with Virginity is Hurting Young
Women”(2009), Jessica Valenti crafts a vivid and compelling narrative about the
pervasive American purity myth, which valorizes “pure,” virginal women for
their passive femininity, while condemning sexually active women as tainted and
immoral. This myth matters—and has consequences ranging from the
conservative backlash against women’s rights and the promotion of erroneous and
discriminatory abstinence-only education, to complacency towards sexual
violence.
Conservative
think tanks and anti-feminist organizations, like the Independent Women’s Forum
and Concerned Women for America , are leading the charge for the
well-funded and well-organized virginity movement. This movement is reactionary
in nature: as women in recent decades have made measurable social gains and
challenged traditional gender roles, the virginity movement has organized in
“seeking a return to traditional gender roles (marriage and motherhood), and
focusing on purity is the vehicle toward that end.”
Virginity
as a moral proxy is harmful, Valenti argues, as it creates a culture in which
girls are valued for their passivity, rather than for their accomplishments.
Furthermore, the virginity movement fetishizes the sexualization of young
girls, rather than fighting against it. Valenti describes in vivid detail the
surge of disconcertingly sexual father-daughter purity balls and antiquated
purity pledges, in which fathers pledge to “cover” and protect their daughters
in the area of purity.
There is
also a spate of virginity-themed products that commodify teen
sexuality—t-shirts for young girls stamped with messages like “No Trespassing
on This Property, My Father is Watching”, and “Virginity Vouchers”, or credit
card-like abstinence commitment cards featuring images of a bride and groom. As
Valenti rightly states, by “focusing on girls’ virginity they’re actually
positioning girls as sexual objects before they’ve even hit puberty”.
The
purity myth hurts men too
The
virginity movement’s ideal woman is passive, docile, and relegated to the home.
This notion of ideal femininity is harmful for men as well—it creates an
oppositional ideal of masculinity that is aggressive and dominant. This has
consequences for violence and the perpetuation of rape culture.
If women
are the moral gatekeepers of sex, Valenti claims, then the behaviors of men are
excusable; rape, sexual assault and violence against women are natural male
responses to biological urges. We see this manifested often through victim
blaming. The media reporting around sexual violence is often centered on
women’s behavior—what she was wearing, what she was drinking, or where she was
walking—rather than on the actions of the actual perpetrators.
“Relying on
condoms is like playing Russian roulette.”Sex education in the U.S. hasn’t escaped the talons of these
conservative think tanks and virginity movement proponents. Research shows that
more than 80% of federally funded abstinence education programs contain (or are
often laden with) misinformation and false claims about sex and reproductive
health. And there is indeed a regressive agenda behind this education. As
Valenti unequivocally states: “abstinence-only education seeks to create a
world where everyone is straight, women are relegated to the home, the only
appropriate family is a nuclear one, reproductive choices are negated, and the
only sex people have is for procreation.”
I would
argue that of the most severe consequences of the conservative backlash is the
increasingly restrictive, anti-choice, and anti-women legislation cropping up
across the country. The patriarchal discourse that dominates in the virginity
movement presumes that women are incapable of making decisions about themselves
or their bodies. This leads to heinous legislative attempts to roll back
reproductive rights and hinder access to health services.
“Informed
consent” laws regarding abortion are one such example. Created to “inform”
women about the “realities” of abortion, an increasing amount of states are
implementing restrictive, patronizing laws, from requiring doctors to tell
women that abortions “end a human life”, to mandating pre-abortion ultrasounds.
If I were to pursue an abortion in my home state of Michigan , it would be required that I
receive the following: a written summary of the procedure, illustrations or
photographs of fetal development, prenatal care information, and
condescendingly enough, parenting information.
The cult of
virginity doesn’t apply to all young women. Valenti is quick to explain that
women of color and low-income women are generally absent from the purity myth
discourse, as they are often hypersexualized. As she says, “how can you be pure
if you are seen as dirty to begin with?” Despite these acknowledgments, Valenti
lacks a more robust discussion about the commodification of virginity and how
this manifests differently on racialized, queer, and trans bodies.
Class
matters
But where
Valenti falls a major step short is in explaining how the purity myth serves
certain class interests. She lacks an analysis of why the cult of
virginity fights to maintain traditional gender roles, and how the subjugation
of women and appropriation of female sexuality reproduces capitalism. Her
analysis lacks historicity and a rich explanation of the relationship between
the commodification of female sexuality and the shift towards atomized family
units with the rise of capitalism. To extend her argument, I would claim that
insofar as families remain atomized units, each solely responsible for the
health and well-being of their offspring, the social cost of reproducing human
labor remains low, class inequality is easily reproduced, and collective action
is diminished.
Overall,
Valenti’s book is a thoughtful and evocative read, and useful in understanding
the consequences of the purity myth for American men and women. Though
enjoyable, her book is also pointedly U.S. focused, and I found myself
desiring an international analysis. It is critical in the struggle for women’s
liberation to understand international complexities, and how Western and
Eurocentric feminist frameworks can harm women across the globe.
This is
particularly relevant in the midst of the current discourse and public outcry
surrounding the gang rape and murder in New Delhi . The U.S. media has framed rape culture and
the predilection towards violence as a unique character of Indian men, rather
than a pervasive problem that is innately tied to the relationship between
patriarchy and capitalism.
> The
article above was written by Dawn Rose, and is reprinted from Socialist Action
newspaper.
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